Rapists are not always
strangers. When someone you know—a date, steady,
acquaintance, or casual friend—forces you to have sex, it is
tell someone where you are going with your date and when you
expected to return.
a first date or a blind date with friends. Meet in and go
places. Carry money for a taxi or take your own car in case you need to
the date short.
attention to what your date says about himself. If you
discrepancies this should raise a flag.
If a place or the way your date acts makes you
nervous or uneasy get away from the situation.
with friends, keep together and try not to get separated.
leave a social event with someone you have just met or do not know well.
not to let alcohol or other drugs decrease your ability to
of yourself and make sensible decisions.
accept beverages from someone you do not know or trust.
watch your drink and never leave it unattended.
sense. Realize that you do not have the right to force a
woman to have sex just because you paid for her dinner or drinks.
woman’s decision when she says, “No!” Do not
interpret it as a
clouding your judgment and understanding of what another
wants by using alcohol or drugs.
assume that a woman wants to have sex just because she is
heavily, the way she dresses, or agrees to go home with you.
sex with anyone who is passed out.
assume that just because a woman has had sex with you
she is willing to have sex with you again.
assume that if a woman consents to kissing or other sexual
she is willing to have sexual intercourse.
that forcing a woman to have sex against her will is rape, a
crime with serious consequences.
drawn into a gang rape. Be prepared to resist pressure from
If you see
a woman in trouble at a party or a male friend using force
pressuring a woman, do not be afraid to intervene. Your intervention may
prevent the woman from the trauma of sexual assault or not to mention
preventing your friend from the ordeal of criminal repercussions.
yourself how sexual stereotypes affect your attitudes and
counseling or a support group to help you deal with feelings
and aggression toward women.
you become a victim of date rape….
Do not isolate yourself, do not feel guilty, and do not
ignore it. It
is a crime and should be reported.
medical attention as soon as possible. Do not shower, wash,
change your clothes. Valuable evidence could be destroyed.
counseling to deal with the emotional trauma.
think you’ve been assaulted while under the influence of
GHB, seek help immediately. Try not to urinate before providing urine
samples, and if possible collect any glasses from which you drank.
What are “date rape” drugs….
(“roofies,” “circles,” “the forget pills”) works like a
causes muscle weakness, fatigue, slurred speech, loss of motor
and judgment, and amnesia that lasts up to 24 hours. It looks like an
(small, white, and round).
known as “liquid X,” “salt water,” or “scoop”) causes quick
sedation. Its effects are drowsiness, nausea, vomiting, headaches,
dizziness, coma, and possibly death. Its most common form is a clear
although it also can take the form of a white, grainy powder.
Rohypnol and GHB are
called the date rape drugs because when they are slipped
into someone’s drink a sexual assault can take place without
the victim being able to remember what happened.
out your home address, phone number, the name of your school
or any other personal details to people you do not know.
decide to talk to someone on the phone, ask to call
sure to use caller ID block (*67).
nickname in chat rooms or message boards.
instincts. If you pick up on contradictions or
your chat friend, or something does not feel right, end your
friends in public places.
tell someone where you are going with your on-line date and
you will return.
cell phone with you.
to someone’s house that you have just met.